“People who are serious about getting serious should try Ok Cupid because the people on it range in age and are typically on there with truly serious intentions,” says Julia Bekker, a matchmaker, relationship expert and dating coach.
“Many of the users are smart and attractive; it’s a high quality crowd.” When you’re dating in your 40’s, high quality is just about the best thing you can ask for.
One caveat: Because the app sources your matches from friends of friends on Facebook, this might not be the best option for those who are trying to widen their dating pool beyond their community. According to recent research, First Met has one of the highest percentages of users who are 30 or older, with only 2.3% of its users being in the 18 to 29 age bracket.
Again, the bigger the pool, the better chance you have of meeting someone amazing, and with over 30 million users, that’s a pretty huge pool. This app knows that age is a factor, and because of that it divides people up into two categories: young professionals (40 and under) and professionals (40 and up).
(Want to a shot at model and actress Cara Delevingne, or even Sharon Stone?
Go for Raya.) If you go this route, prepare to be Googled and judged.
As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can't tell you how often I've been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I'm into what I'm into.
Making it past their screening process is no easy feat (unless you happen to be a minor celeb, you’re going to need some luck! But before you thumb your nose at it, it’s worth noting that if you’ve got a hobby that you really care about in your 40s—such as staying really fit, which we wholeheartedly encourage—it’s a terrific way to meet a compatible, like-minded person.
), but selective element can be a major plus, since you know everyone else on the app went through the same thing. According to their website, find someone who is already on the app to invite you. According to Lisa Bahar, a California-based licensed marriage and family therapist, super-specific apps are great for older crowds with firmer routines in their daily lives.
If you know what you’re looking for, which by now you likely do, there’s no reason to waste time. Bumble is hugely popular, but the options for the over-40 crowd are fewer than in other age groups.
(Hence the lower rating on our part.) Bumble is similar to Tinder in the sense that you’ll swipe yes or no on potential matches, but it’s different in that the woman has to start the conversation in the first 24 hours after matching. Women tend to favor this app because there’s a lower chance of getting creepy one-liners as conversation openers, which in turn becomes a plus for men who want to meet women who are actually looking for the real deal. The most challenging thing about dating apps is dealing with the sheer volume of potential matches.