Women are encouraged to go on an emotional journey of self-care after a divorce, while men are expected to need help learning how to cook and parent on their own.
For women, typically the caregivers and the one in charge of emotional caretaking as well, it makes sense that many women are often a lot happier after divorce; all that care-taking takes its toll, emotionally and physically.
But even the women who would happily marry again have a harder time; while having kids makes remarriage challenging for men and women, it’s worse for women.
Women, who tend to be more vocal about their emotional struggles, are the squeaky wheel that gets the grease from friends, from online communities, from books, and from therapeutic approaches.
— As a dating coach for single women over 40, one of the first questions I ask a client is, “What’s your biggest problem in dating? I recently asked a group of about 300 single, divorced, and widowed women over 40 what their biggest problems were in dating. But when a man rushes sex, women often feel objectified.
” I want to know what they’ve tried and what their struggles are. I wanted to see how many struggled with the same issues. They want to be appreciated for more than their bodies.
Their answers help me tailor a program that helps them attract their ideal match.
Are they unknowingly putting up guards that turn men off?
Don't get caught up in insecurity about another woman or man being involved in your children's lives.
To my pleasant surprise, my 30-something confidence combined with the dawn of casual online dating culture made for one damn fun year and a half.
Turned out, dating as a divorced 35-year-old was a great way to pass the time until I felt ready for a relationship again.
It’s not likely to happen like that at this age, and on the rare occasions when it does, the relationship is usually based on nothing more than lust. A mature woman who values herself doesn’t want to date a man who’s a victim or stuck in the past.
Would you rather crash and burn or have a slow sizzle that bursts into hot flames over time? She’s going to walk away and find a grownup guy.◊♦◊Guys, correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe there’s a ‘lid for every pot’, a body type for every guy. Those things are far more important than a Harvard or Yale degree, or whether or not he speaks Mandarin.◊♦◊People in big cities say it’s hard to meet anyone.