There are two basic ways that this process can play out: the anaclitic pattern, and the introjective pattern.
Even though these terms are not currently used in the DSM, some therapists may still use them to label different types of depression.
A "despised" self-concept starts to form, and the child finds it comfortable to think thoughts along the lines of "I am an unlovable and bad person." At the same time, the child also strives to present a perfect, idealized (and therefore acceptable) facade to the parents as a means of compensating for perceived weaknesses that make him or her "unacceptable".
Caught between the belief that he or she is unacceptable, and the imperative to act perfectly to obtain parental love, the child becomes "neurotic" or prone to experiencing exaggerated anxiety and/or depression feelings.
One popular branch of modern psychodynamic theory, known as object relations theory, is concerned with how people understand and mentally represent their relationships with others.
The "objects" in object relations theory are representations of people (how other people are experienced, represented and remembered by the person doing the objectification).
So, out of fear, love, and guilt, the child represses anger toward the parents and turns it inwards so that it becomes an anger directed towards him or herself.Consequently, different schools of thought within psychology have developed their own theories as to why someone becomes depressed.Psychodynamic Theories Psychodynamic theory was the dominant school of thought within psychiatry and much of clinical psychology during the first part of the 20th century, at least with regard to ideas about how psychotherapy should be conducted.The child also feels a perpetual sense that he or she is not good enough, no matter how hard he or she tries.This neurotic need to please (and perpetual failure to do so) can easily spread beyond the situation in which it first appears, such that the child might start to feel a neurotic need to be loved by everyone, including all peers, all family members, co-workers, etc.