They don't want to date guys their own age because, in the words of a friend of mine, they don't want to just "sit home every night, watch tv and fuck". If you're smart you'll get over your crisis and look for guys your own age. I'm 35, when I was in my 20s I couldn't get a date at all.
Not even so much as a glance from a 1000 people in a room. It's so boring when people generalise about everyone else.
I am 45, not quite elder-gay but definitely middle-aged (in the truest sense, since I expect to live to be 90, at least). I am most definitely not looking to be a sugar daddy or any kind of daddy for that matter. Are there any dating websites geared toward this demographic, preferably one that isn't promoting a fetish, like silver daddy or bears, etc.?
Doll, in gay years you're not just an eldergay you're pretty much in God's waiting room.
I feel very fortunate because I've found someone who's mature, responsible, dependable, and considerate.
I, and others my age who are like me, find those qualities very attractive, and an older man is likelier to possess them.
I can't imagine how a site geared toward the old/young combo would attract anyone other than pervs and golddiggers.
I know lots of guys my age (40s) who are hung up on the idea that they want a 20-something boyfriend.
It's just not a reasonable demand..when I dig deeper I see that they are stunted emotionally in some way, and never had that 'perfect boyfriend' when THEY were in their 20's..can't move on from that until they get some young twink to fall in love with them. I meant to add that hooking up with younger guys is a whole 'nother story.
It gave me a real complex and induced a crippling shyness in me. I'm still really shy so I never let it go to my head or take it seriously. The flip side of your story is that nobody wants you.
Now I get hit on all the time by guys and girls in the 20s. A few times I've had girls take pictures of me on their phones while just walking down the street. Yes, there must be something wrong with everybody else, not you.[quote]Either you pony up with the cash, or settle for some schlub with a daddy complex. I dated a younger guy who definitely felt that way.