He does all sorts of things to woo her and win her over, but simultaneously, he (for whatever reason) does not want to be in an exclusive relationship.So as soon as the woman declares that she really likes him, she assumes it means that they’re headed towards a relationship.that doesn’t mean he’ll lose interest in you, but if he already had some insecurities about whether or not you are into him, this will stir up his insecurities further and he’ll keep doing and trying things to “make you like him” so he can feel secure. So, for starters, I would say that the more insecure he is about you liking him, the more of this stuff he’s going to say until he’s convinced that you really like him a lot.Once he believes that you really like him, it’s at that point he’ll relax and start being himself.I’ve described this kind of thing as people wearing a pretty “mask” at the beginning of a relationship and how, if you know about this, you’ll make sure to see the person behind the mask (and not mistake their pretty “mask” as who they actually are).
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The guy, if he hasn’t already, starts talking about how he doesn’t want to be in a relationship for some reason.
the guy change his mind if you’re going to stick around regardless of whether or not you’re in an explicitly committed, exclusive relationship?
He would text me things like, ‘I miss you’ and ‘Can’t wait to see you’ and on our second date he said he ‘never liked a girl so much after only two dates’. All this was great, but then he started to shift and lately has been acting really shady- he cancels on me last minute, he’s been acting distant, and I’m just getting weird vibes.
We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.